This week we have a woman who gets along with men well in a platonic way, but recently introduced a flirty gal pal to the mix. Can she get them to stop flirting with each other? Or does she need to get over it?
This week we have a man with a female best friend, but his girlfriend is getting jealous.
“ATTENTION ARTISTS: sometimes your friends will have successes, and you’ll be jealous, even if you don’t want to be,” says author and Dinosaur Comics creator Ryan North in an inspirational Twitter thread. He has two tips for dealing with that jealousy, which apply to anyone who’s envied a colleague:
TV sitcoms have taught us that if someone’s doing better than you at your career, your goal should be to crush them with righteous fury. While that makes for a great story, learning from them will probably help more.
Jealousy and envy can be nasty feelings, but manage them the right way, and you can actually use these feelings to your advantage. Next time you feel envious of someone, move past it and learn something in the process by asking that person for advice.
We spend a lot of energy looking for shortcuts to save time, and sure, those shortcuts add up. But when I look back, my biggest time regrets aren’t spending too much time on Twitter or mismanaging my daily tasks. Those are bad habits, but there are bigger, more systematic time wasters that have really gotten in the…
It’s normal to be a little jealous of someone else every once in a while. The big question is what you do with that feeling. If you’re jealous of someone, but know that you could achieve the same thing if you tried, practicing “benign envy” could help.
Years ago, a friend introduced me to someone who asked what I did for a living. “I work on an online video series,” I said. It was hard work, it required lots of planning, researching and interviewing, and it was how I paid the bills. My friend chimed in, “She’s a vlogger,” then giggled. I didn’t quite understand what…
Jealousy can make us resentful, ungrateful, and bitter. It's not a fun feeling, but all of us experience it every now and then. Next time jealousy creeps up on you, break it down to turn it into something more productive.
Everyone has a dark side, but that's not a bad thing–you just need to know how to use it for good. Think of it this way: Batman has more anger issues than any therapist can cure, but he channels those to make the world a better place. There's no reason you can't do that too...you know, minus the billions of dollars…
Jealousy is an ugly emotion, one that can easily get out of control. Maybe the green-eyed monster has something to show us, though, if we dig a little deeper.
And that's okay. No matter what stage you are in life or how sensitive you are about your age, there will come a time when you realize, damn that kid's much better or farther along than I am.
How do you feel when one of your sales colleagues closes a big deal? Or when a fellow manager is recognized for leading one of the best projects in the company? Or when a coworker is selected for a special assignment or training program? The politically correct answer is that we're supposed to feel pleased.